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As Martin said, Marc can certainly rub people the wrong way, BUT the 
only way it can bother you is if you let it. For what it's worth, Marc 
has said and done things that have rubbed me the wrong way, but I'm sure 
I have said and done things to him and others that have rubbed them the 
wrong way. Regardless, you either choose to be friendly with that person 
or you choose not to. If you choose to remain friendly, as I have with 
Marc, you learn that that is how that person is; it is what defines his 
personality and character. Do I agree with Marc often? Honestly, not 
most of the time, but he is super intelligent and brutally honest, and 
that is what I like about him. If you choose not to be friendly with 
that person, as I have in the past with others, then you distance 
yourself from that person...end of story.

Why take things so personally? If something was said and done to you 
that you felt was wrong, why not take it up with that person, rather 
than make it public? Who is the better person for it? Trying to diffuse 
a situation privately is the diplomatic way - who can ever say anything 
bad about you by taking that road? If that person make a public stink; 
so be it. At that point, would you really care what that person says or 
thinks. Wouldn't it be obvious to everyone that there is something 
definitely wrong with that person - enough so that others wouldn't want 
anything to do with him/her? A person that defames another persons 
character is an obvious sign of insecurity on their part.

I've always been amazed at how much controversy there is on lists like 
these. I almost never post to groups like this because to me, it is a 
form of entertainment. Groups like this revolve around my hobby for the 
DeLorean. But seriously...discussions that revolve around "what he said, 
what she said" are nothing short of futile. Who gets in the last word? 
Apparently, in this case the moderating team. Again, we all have the 
option of discounting what another person said. Aren't we all smart 
enough to realize this? I'll be honest, I laugh at each posting that 
doesn't pertain to the DeLorean because it's so unbelievable that some 
people let it bother them. If someone says something directly/indirectly 
to you on the forum and you feel it's wrong, antagonistic, etc., why 
would you reply publicly? It goes back to what I said in the above 
paragraph. Why not post back privately? As a reader of the Forum, this 
is what I would see (and I'm sure 99% of us would) if there was a post 
attacking another member: OK, here's someone trying to start some "shit" 
with another member. WOW, that person has said things that border on 
wrong/nasty. As a few days pass, nothing, no response from the 
"attacked." Well,  apparently, the "attackor" must have been full of his 
own "shit." Kudos the the other person for not getting involved.

This is no different than turning away from a pending fist fight. Some 
people like to get into fisticuffs, but those that take the high road 
are smarter than the hot-head. This isn't to say that I would avoid a 
fight regardless of what has happened, but in this case (Marc v. DMC 
Forum)...who give a flying shit? Respond privately, or ask publicly to 
go private.  Who has the time in their lives to let this bother them?  I 
am too busy working and stressed to let this stuff bother me. Am I the 
only one that thinks and feels this way?

As it has been said in the past, there is a delete key, or a scroll 
option. Use to to bypass what you want to read and what you don't want 
to read. If you find an attack against yourself, don't get into a public 
debate, handle it privately. There is no need to "moderate" this list 
and there is no need for "rules" and for that matter, no need to "ban" 
any member. Should we act like children that need supervision or should 
we handle ourselves like adults and deal with our problems maturely? 
Apparently, the moderating team and Marc need to handle this together 
and not involve the members.

- Joshua Schwartz

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